Is He in Love With Someone Else? The PAINFUL Truth About LOVE, Loss and Spiritual Soul Mates

Q: What are the signs that a man is in love with another woman? Can you tell from his energy, or aura if he's NOT into you? What signs should I look for that our relationship may be over... and is there anything I can do to stop him from leaving?

A: One of the most common questions we get is from women who fear that their man is not only NO longer into them... but instead, has fallen for somebody else instead! Is this something that troubles you, or keeps you up at night? Do you worry that the man you thought was perfect, or your soulmate and true spiritual partner is actually feeling the same way about another woman?

The good news is, if any of this sounds familiar... you are NOT alone. As a matter of fact, one of the most common love, romance and relationship questions we get is about what to do when that loving feeling subsides, or even goes away completely.

The truth is, you ALWAYS know in your gut what is going on when it is. There are always signs when love ebbs away... and they are often the exact things you overlook for days, weeks or even months in advance... and chalk them up to the challenges that every relationship faces.

What are some of the common ones?

Lack of emotional intimacy, lack of connection, a feeling of "space" between you and LESS shared passion, purpose and partnership in a shared sense of destiny.

More subtle your relationship is on the rocks?

The best sign that a man has lost that loving feeling is what your own gut, or inner sense of intuitive wisdom tells you. Every woman has a romantic radar that is RARELY wrong. We often lie to ourselves... and deceiver ourselves with things we want to believe are true, but where it counts, (and matters most) we know the truth.

The key is, to look at romance and relationships as an adventure. Every love lost hurts... but it's part of your own unique journey, and the lessons you are here to live and learn. Sometimes, when I reflect on my own journey, I'm MOST thankful for the things that were the MOST hurtful, and hardest to learn, simply because I grew from them the most, and they were the most instrumental in helping me get where I am today!

So be grateful of each and every relationship. They are all in your life for a reason. And if the man you are with NOW is destined to be "the ONE" that lasts a lifetime... fight for him and your relationship. If not? Heal from the hurt... and allow yourself to understand that it's all part of the grand plan, and believe it or not... it ALL happens for the best.

How to Walk in Spiritual Love

Walking in the love of Almighty God is vital to real spiritual growth and development.

In fact, you cannot be a spiritually mature individual without loving God with all of your heart and without loving other people as you love yourself. The Lord Jesus Christ said that the two greatest commandments in the entire Word of God is to love.

Matthew 22: 37-39 (King James Version of the Bible)

"Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all they heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself."

The reason loving God and loving people are the two great commandments is because they are the foundations of all the other commandments God has given. You simply cannot walk in the fullness of God without living by the law of LOVE.

This is where that we can discern the truly spiritual person from the highly religious. People who have a mere form of godliness cannot operate in the true love of God. Oh, they can pretend for a time, but the real man or woman of God exhibits a pure love which is the mark of the Christian. It cannot be mistaken, for it may go through trials and tribulations, persecutions and afflictions, and yet, it will emerge victorious, loving the offenders as if they never did anything. Real love is truly unmistakable.

God's love is already within the heart of every born again believer. Notice the following verse of Scripture from God's Holy Word.

Romans 5:5 (King James Version of the Bible)

"And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us."

So we already have His love within. This is one of the proofs that we have really experience the new birth from Heaven.

1 John 3:14 (King James Version of the Bible)

"We know that we have passed from death unto life, because we love the brethren. He that loveth not his brother abideth in death."

Notice what the apostle John is saying in this passage of Scripture. He says that we know, not we guess or we hope, but we know that we have passed out of the realm of (spiritual) death, (which is separation from God and His Holy Nature), unto life, (which is the very Nature of God), because we love the brethren.

So love then, is the distinguishing mark of the true Christian, of the spiritual person. Love is, after all, a spiritual force. Real love is spiritual, not natural. Real love is like God, unchangeable, for God is Love and He never changes. (1 John 4:8, Malachi 3:6)

This is the reason God can command us love people and treat people as we would like for them to treat us. This is why we are told to love our enemies, blessing and speaking well of those who curse and speak evil of us, and doing good to those who despitefully use us and persecute us. (Matthew 5:45-48)

He has already deposited His Nature, which is love, inside of us, in our spirits. Understand that the new birth changes us and gives us the ability to live in the spirit. We have His love, His ability to love as He loves, regardless of how others may treat us. We can love them and through that Divine love, show them how good God is. His love in us is the light that must shine so that men may see our good works and glorify our Father which is in Heaven.

How does this love behave, you may ask? What are its characteristics?

The Word of God gives us the answer. But let us settle this matter right now. What God says in His Word is right, whether we agree with Him or not. He is right. So whatever He says love is and however He says that true love behaves is just how love is and how it behaves. He is right. Settle that in your soul.

Here is the God's description of the characteristics of real love:

1 Corinthians 13:4-8a(King James Version of the Bible)

"Charity suffereth long, and is kind; Charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth:"

Now let us look at the same passage of Scripture from The Amplified Bible:

1 Corinthians 13:4-8a (The Amplified Bible)

"Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealously, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end]."

This is the character of love. This is how true love acts. Love is pure. Love is tender. Love is clean. God is holy. God is love. So love, real love is holy.

Real love for a person will never cheat on him or her or betray the trust of the prson loved. Real love will not lie to people. Real love does not commit adultery, in the mind or in body. Real love is holy.

Now, remember the great commandment given to us by the Lord Jesus Christ Himself. Notice that, according to Matthew 22:37-39, we are told to love the Lord our God with our whole heart. As it pertains to loving the Lord our God with all of our hearts, minds, souls and strength, the absolute proof of loving God is obedience. Jesus said so:

John 14:15 (King James Version of the Bible)

"If ye love Me, keep My commandments."

The Master goes further and says that the one who loves Him will keep His commandments.

Healing Your Spiritual Self to Attract the Love You Deserve

If your love life is an endless stream of non commitment from lovers, or the wrong person, or relationships that never last or work out-it is due to the programming replaying in your mind. This programming is a result of what we experienced during our formative childhood years. Children who have loving and positive childhoods develop into loving and happy adults. Children who endure physical, mental and verbal abuse in childhood develop into needy, desperate and insecure adults who do not have self-love for themselves. Unless a person does get some type of therapy, those programs get worse overtime and as a result the person has a life of unfulfilled love in relationships.

As adults we adapt to these programs and find it easier to keep repeating them than doing the work to change the program. Our egos tell us we have no problem; but instead we blame the significant others in our life for causing the problems in the relationships. However, we can heal and learn to love ourselves in order to attract the right person to us. Healing yourself takes work and is not an overnight process-it is a lifelong process. However, because negative memories never completely go away-we learn how to cope with and control our reaction to the memories.

There are effective methods you can do right now that will start you on the path to understanding and loving yourself. Of course this healing process requires placing our trust into God and our angels to help us release our ego driven needy behavior, desperation and loneliness. But first, remember and commit this to memory, "I can attract a healthy loving person who loves me, if I love myself first".

For spiritual healing to be effective, we have to accept that we do have a problem and need help. Also the prayers in this article can be copied down and should be repeated anywhere and anytime as needed. This prayer will help you release your negative programming. "My dear God, and my angels I need your help. Please be with me, and guide me. I am letting go and giving you're all my ego based and destructive desperation, needy behavior, fears, sadness, frustrations and any other negative emotions that keep me from the happiness, peace and love I deserve. I ask that you fill my empty void with your love and kindness. I am worthy of all you have to offer. I am sorry and please help me to forgive myself. I love you and I love myself. Thank you".

The other prayer that will help in releasing the blame and anger you may have towards your parents or caretakers and or those in both friendships and romantic relationships is: "Dear Lord, I give to you the anger, the pain, frustration, and the blame that I am feeling towards all those who have hurt me. Please forgive me and them, I love you my dear Lord, I love myself. Thank you." The reason we ask for forgiveness for ourselves, is that we our responsible for both the choices we made in our relationships and for the changes we choose to make. It is also our responsibility to heal our own emotional empty void. No one on plant earth can do it, so that is why we ask God and our angels for help.

The next step is to write down all the negative emotions, rage and anger we feel towards those who have hurt us. Then we go through each item and feel the emotional impact and let it all go. After we have spent our emotional reaction on each item this is the pray to say, "Dear Lord and my dear angels, I give you these negative emotions. Please keep my mind free from them. I love and forgive myself and I love you. Thank you". The challenge as you go through your healing is that your old memories are familiar and may want to stay. However, when you find yourself thinking of them-stop and pray: "My dear God, take this memory away now-I do not need it. Thank you. I love you".

Also during your healing process anxiety may rear its ugly head and cause you to talk endlessly about it to family and friends. However, this may drive them away and they may start avoiding you. This pray will help you through the anxiety. "Dear God, please give me the strength to overcome this anxiety and not burden my family and friends with my anxiety. I ask you to take it away now. I love you and thank you". There are support groups in the community you can attend and talk with others if need be. Remember--you are worthy and deserving of love!